Name Change

Name CHange/Change

On the knot message board I have been frequently visiting as now part of my routine, much like any other bride to be, I have stumble upon a hot topic which is obviously called the Name Change.

Generally or let say traditionally the woman takes on the mans surname or last name. I know sounds archaic now because woman of today are more self reliant and empowered to become someone of somebody. Thank your for the sacrifices that the woman of the suffragettes has done; but this is another topic that I am willing to discuss much later on.

Back to the topic of today's blog. I must say that I am empowered and discussed this matter over with my FI. I told him that I would like to keep my fathers name after we got married. I was prepared to fight and argue with him I even practiced scenarios in my head just before I post the question to him. I was bewildered when he simply agreed and with out any arguments.

He said to me "It is your decision, I would like you to have my name but I will not force you to it. I will still marry you" Now, My mind was more muddled than the scenarios that I had been practising just before demanding a debate on name change.

Then the subject was not discussed again, but I am continually thinking about name change, with my long thought of the matter I began to think of what effect it would be on my children, would I confused them if I choose to keep my name or will they be empowered as I still fell strongly about keep my name.

I have work with many woman who keep their names because of professional reason their children understand. Others simply would like to keep their last name simply and I have not asked of what their kids think about it; they don't have kids.

My take of keeping my name is to keep my fathers name alive even though I have brothers, I want to compromised with my FI. I have decided to keep my name and take his surname after we are married. It will not be hyphenated. I will use my last name as my middle name and use my FI's as my new wedded name. Now that is compromise and he is happy and I am happy.